Talking politics with your kids

It’s inescapable. Every TV channel, Facebook post, and Tweet seems to have a political bent these days and it’s obvious – and widely reported, only to fuel the fire – that we as a nation are more divisive and angry than we have been in ages. There was a time when we would have killed to have our kids more invested in current events – heck, to even know what was going on in our own country. That time has past. Now, they have no choice but to know the news. It follows them everywhere, and like us, they’re sucked in to the 24/7 coverage that sensationalizes, criticizes, and mobilizes.

The Trump campaign and presidency is seen as a massive relief by some, an abomination by others. For once, no one is ambivalent about our new president, including the notoriously ambivalent teens. Social media and constant coverage has impacted them just as it has us, and parents have a responsibility to parent in this situation just as they do in every other. It’s a sticky wicket, but so is discussing sex, body image, drug use, and so many other issues that affect young people today. So let’s focus on the positives and how you can transform this contentious time in American history into a life-changing learning experience.

  1. Use this time to teach your kids about media bias. I recently spoke to a reporter from Fox News who revealed without any hesitation that bias rules in every single media outlet, including her own. She said it as though it were the most obvious thing in the world, yet people still refuse to believe it. Every media outlet has an agenda and no one is immune. Their bottom line is viewership and every news organization knows their audience and regularly slants the truth to appeal to them. Teach your kids to recognize the bias.
  2. But take it one step further: Just because a news outlet is biased, doesn’t mean it doesn’t contribute valuable information. Don’t totally discount the news, but take everything with a grain of salt. Understand who news organizations are working to appeal to and recognize that they “adjust” their news accordingly. They may only report one side, choose only the facts that support one viewpoint, or flat out report a story before it’s been verified. If you can teach your kids that every conversation, whether it’s personal or through a TV channel broadcasting to millions, has an agenda of some sort, you will help create critical thinkers who don’t readily believe everything they hear.
  3. Caution your kids against believing what they see on social media. I can’t tell you how many memes and “news” stories I’ve seen shared that were complete fabrications. People see them, agree with them, and share them all in a matter of seconds. That’s not responsible or beneficial to everyone and only muddies very dark waters. The Internet is filled with inaccuracies and downright lies, and the sooner your kids learn that, the sooner they’ll grow into thinking adults. Teach them to consult multiple sources and to fact check news before believing it.
  4. This is a unique time to teach your kids about respect. You may despise our current president, but he is in fact, OUR president. We teach kids to respect police officers, teachers, and other authority figures because they hold an office or position that is worthy of respect. It’s trite but true that you don’t have to respect the man in power, but you do have to respect the office. Of course, you can engage in discourse wherein you respectfully disagree, but name-calling and bashing is not something you want to teach your children, even if you feel 100% justified. The same goes for the other half of the population or political spectrum with which you disagree. Engage in respectful conversations and try to understand each other. Appreciate that not everyone believes in the same things you do. Model this behavior to your children.
  5. Teach your kids there comes a time to move on. Wallowing feels good for a while, but then it just becomes ugly. What’s done is done. As Americans we have a right to peacefully protest, to write or call our government officials, and to have our own opinion about how our president is doing. But to be close-minded as to his potential, see everything he does as negative, and give him no chance to prove himself is downright wrong. Would you want someone doing that to your child? Do you want your child to grow up believing that people can’t change, have no redeeming qualities, or should not be given a chance?  Show your children what it looks like to extend grace and to have faith, even in the most difficult times.

Take every opportunity to teach your kids about life and to help them become the kind of people who will make the world a better place. Help them to be thinkers, to be aware of media motives, to have a healthy level of respect for others, and to persevere in the face of adversity. You may think nothing good will come of our current political situation, but if every parent used it to teach those things, the world really would be a better place.

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